Are you unable to communicate with your partner any more? Does relationship bring more annoyance than satisfaction? Here are some tips that can help you:
1 Learn to love unconditionally. Unconditional love – a love that does not depend on anything and does not put any conditions. This does not mean that you have to turn a blind eye to the shortcomings of the partner and never notice his or her mistakes. To love unconditionally means to continue to love, even seeing the flaws and failures.
2 Get rid of unrealistic expectations and too high demands of your partner. Not a single person in the world is able to meet all the expectations of other people! Discard the ideals and stereotypes and appreciate the good inside your partner.
3 Stop being dependant on other peoples opinions! It is you who make the choice, so respect it and turn a deaf ear to other peoples comments.
4 Get rid of negative thoughts and feelings toward your partner. Discontent, even not shown, can kill relationships. Focus on the good sides of the other person and remind yourself of them often.
5 Believe in your own attractiveness and help your partner feel attractive. Dissatisfaction with oneself is what makes people look for flaws in another person. If you are attracted to your partners inner qualities, your union is strong.
6 Learn to hear your partner. In order to really hear the other person, you need to listen to him or her with an open mind, forgetting for a moment about yourself. You have to be objective and non-judgemental to your partners feelings and give up your wish to be right at all costs.
7 Learn how to put yourself in your partners place. When we put ourselves in another persons place and understand their feelings, our hearts open to each other.
8 Take responsibility for your emotions and feelings. To feel offended or not to, to get annoyed or not to – only you can make this choice. Do not blame the other person if you get this or that feeling.
9 Learn how to care for each other. Ability to take care of each other is an important part of a family life. Learn to recognize situations when it is appropriate and when it is not.
10 Learn how to talk about relationships. You should talk about your feelings in a relationship, otherwise they will fade away. Talking about relationships is a good prevention of quarrels. I will go more in details about how to do it right in my next blog.